Are you Trying to JUSTIFY this? | The Healthy American Peggy Hall

➡ The Healthy American Peggy Hall discusses the harmful effects of fear and how it can lead to unhealthy behaviors. She encourages her viewers to step out of their fear and take control of their lives, offering resources and strategies to help them navigate through life’s challenges. She also talks about her work in advocating for people’s rights and her ongoing lawsuit against her county. Lastly, she introduces a video from her other channel, Living Swell with Peggy Hall, which focuses on improving physical, emotional, and spiritual health.

➡ This text talks about the pressure we often feel to prove our worth to others, especially our friends, by showing off our achievements or possessions. The author shares a personal experience where they realized that their friends valued them for who they are, not what they have or have done. They learned that qualities like loyalty, empathy, and the ability to listen and offer support are more important than material accomplishments. The author encourages us to understand that we are enough just as we are, and we don’t need to constantly prove our worth to others.

➡ Growing up, we often feel like we need to prove ourselves to others, whether it’s because we’re from a big family, an only child, or have siblings who outshine us. But as we get older, we realize that we don’t need to impress anyone and that being ourselves is enough. A good way to show this is by being genuinely interested in others, asking them about their lives and experiences, which not only takes the pressure off us but also makes us more engaging. Remember, you don’t need to justify your existence; you’re unique and valuable just as you are.

Hey friends, Peggy hall back with you from thehealthyamerican. org dot. I just did a video for you called the worst addiction ever. And in my opinion, it really is being addicted to fear. I didn’t even mention how fear could drive other addictions, like over drinking, overeating, smoking, promiscuity, overworking, oversleeping, all kinds of things where people are trying to do what they can to not face reality. Unfortunately, some people are creating a reality that is just based on fear.

And I find that that robs people from life. It’s almost like they’re willingly giving in, giving up and giving over their own peace of mind, their own freedom of the soul. And on this channel from day one, and I’ve been online here for four plus years, my goal has always been to encourage you, to inspire you, to empower and educate you, to take action in a way that makes sense for you to step out of the spin cycle.

So I endeavor to bring solutions and strategies, resources, remedies, tips and techniques so that you can keep your head above the waves in these stormy seas of life. And on this channel, we talk a lot, a lot about current events. I really helped push the movement for people. I was really at the forefront of sounding the call all about these emergencies back in the day. All of the hogwash that was sloshed all over us.

Helping people live in liberty, stand up for their rights, going shopping, getting medical care, traveling, doing whatever they needed to do in order to participate in society without being discriminated against. And of course, that expanded into helping people, along with my husband, get their religious exemptions, not only in an employment setting, but we also specialize in helping those who are getting their legal immigration status. We’ve helped a number of college students, especially those that are in nursing school.

We’ve helped people work for the government and all walks of life. Aside from all of the work that I’ve done in helping people understand their rights, stand up for their rights. I’ve got an active lawsuit against my county of orange for violating the law for trying to do away with our three co equal branch should be co equal branches of government. So I’ve been involved in this from day one.

And we also look a lot at the headlines. And I use these opportunities to dig beneath the headlines, not to get in the spin cycle, but the exact opposite, to brush away all of the web of deceit so that we can read between the lies, as I’ve coined it, and not be bamboozled by those who want to hoodwink us and dupe us. So I’m not going to allow them to pull the wool over my eyes.

And I know you are not going to do that as well. And that’s why I’ve got this platform where we can come together, share our ideas, our perspectives, and our moral, spiritual support for each other as we’re going through these tough times. So, having said all that, I did a video all about getting out of the fear cycle, getting rid of the fear mongering. It drives me bonkers when people who hold themselves out to be so called freedom leaders or truthers fill in the blank with whatever label you want to put on them.

But then they’re the ones peddling the fear. I don’t understand that. So I’ve got another video for you that I’m going to share with you in just a moment. In fact, let me do this first. I want to share a message from the sponsor of our show. And this is also about feeling better, about making sure that you are elevating your life not only with good quality sleep, but good quality food.

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com Peggy Friends it’s interesting because I did a video earlier today on my second channel on YouTube, which is called Living Swell with Peggy hall. And every once in a while I like to broadcast that video on this channel to give you a glimpse as to the other content that I provide. And this is all about elevating your physical health, your emotional, spiritual, intellectual aspects of who you are, so that the bad guys can’t get a hold of your ankles and pull you underwater.

Or one of my sayings is to kick harder and swim faster. In other words, don’t worry about what anyone else is doing. You’ve got your goal ahead of you, you’ve got your life ahead of you, and I want you to live it in a way that makes sense for you. So often we can feel that we are less than others. We may overestimate others, underestimate ourselves, and we might feel less than.

This ties in perfectly with the video that I did all about fear. I believe that some people are addicted to fear because it’s a distraction from their own life, perhaps from the things that they wanted to do that they wanted to accomplish, dreams and goals that they wanted to go after. But they put them in a box, and they put that box on the shelf and they haven’t opened it up and looked at it and determined what they want to do with their one precious life.

I start every day with a simple prayer, thank you, Lord, for this gift of life. May I live it in a way that honors you. Now, friends, I fall short of that time and time again because I am human. But I seek to learn and grow from my mistakes. Even on this channel, there are videos that I would and that I have redone because I realize that I have learned and I have grown and my perspective has changed in certain ways.

So keep that in mind when you’re watching some of my videos from the early, early, early days, and always match that up with what I am bringing to you more recently. And without further ado, let me introduce you to this video from my living Swell channel, and I would love for you to join me there and to subscribe to that channel. It’s absolutely free. And that way, if this channel ever goes down, I’ll be able to find you over there.

And I’ve also got a free substack for the healthy american, which is Peggyhall dot substack. com. And I’ve got a second sub stack. I know I am a multitasker. I’ve got a second substack that I launched, which is called Living Swell. Yeah, sw because living well is not enough. We want to live swell. Livingswell substack. com. And that’s where I provide you with written commentary on all of my encouraging videos that are designed to help you navigate your way through these stormy seas so that you can find smoother sailing and brighter days ahead.

I know they’re out there. All right, enjoy the video, everybody, and I’ll see you back here tomorrow for another bright hey, friends, it’s Peggy hall back with you to add some positive encouragement to your life. And I want to share with you an epiphany that happened to me some years ago. And out of all of the things that I could possibly teach you, I believe that this is one that could have the greatest impact.

And I’ll come right out of the gate with it. And then I’m going to give you some examples about that. And that is this simple fact. You do not need to justify your existence. Think about that for just a moment. I think some of us are people pleasers. I think some of us are prone to indecision. We second guess ourselves. I’m looking at some of my notes here.

We second guess what we said, what we did. We push ourselves relentlessly, feeling like we are never doing enough. I believe what drives all that is this sense that we need to feel and act in such a way as to justify our existence, to prove that we are worthy. Now I understand why that could develop, especially as children. Especially children who may not have gotten the attention, the emotional support, or the level or the depth that we required at that time.

And I’m not talking about growing up in an abusive home. Sadly, some people have, and those are rather obvious deficits in someone’s upbringing. But even with people that had two loving parents, and perhaps there was no alcohol or abuse or divorce or affairs or anything else that can draw families apart, yet there still was a sense of not enoughness in certain ways. And I believe that that can be the driving force for some people to continually, maybe even unconsciously, need to prove their worth.

I think at an extreme end of things, that can cause people to become arrogant, conceited, like they’re better than everyone else you might put these characteristics under the heading of narcissism, which I don’t really care that much for labels, but suffice it to say that I’ve spoken many times on this channel about dealing with difficult people, with those that have difficulty showing empathy, feeling caring about others. And you also know, if you’ve been watching any of my videos, that we have little to no control over what anyone else does, what they think, how they feel, what their choices are.

We only truly have control over our own thoughts, our feelings, our emotions, our actions, our decisions, our choices, sometimes our circumstances, and often we can take that into our own hands and change them as well. But let me tell you a story about how this epiphany hit me and what I did to change it. So I remember some years ago, getting ready to head out to an event with some friends.

We were going to go to their home, and I hadn’t seen them for a while, and there were going to be other friends there as well. And I was suddenly gripped with, I can only call it a sense of panic, that what was I going to show for myself? What had I done between the last time I saw them and now? What had I accomplished? What were my achievements? Where had I traveled? Where did I grow? How had I improved? What could I possibly bring to the table that would have an impact, or dare I say, impress them? Now, I’m being very clear and honest with how I felt about this several years ago.

And I literally thought that in order to validate my standing as a friend in this group, that I needed to somehow prove my worth, prove my value through accomplishments, achievements, some kind of self growth or improvement. Maybe something I had purchased, maybe I had a new car or had gone on a vacation. And it’s not that those friends were expecting that of me. They were not. It was my own desire, or, I guess, need, to prove that I was worthy.

And I may be giving you an extreme case, but I wouldn’t be surprised if this kind of sounds familiar for some of you as well, that you felt maybe at a job as well. I remember when I used to work in an office and there was a kind of competition going on among the co workers, especially when it came to vacations, like who went on the most expensive trip, who had the most exotic getaway, who had the cruise or what have you.

I also noticed that with cars and homes and things. But that’s a little bit different because I didn’t count those people as my friends. They were just my, you know, work acquaintances. But when it comes to your friends. And this is the other thing that hit me before I went to this get together. And I can only say that it was the Holy Spirit breathed on me a sense of relief and a truth that I didn’t have to prove my worth.

They didn’t love me and have me as a friend because of what I had achieved, what I had accomplished, how clever or witty I was, or what I looked like, or what kind of car I drove, or where I lived, or I had gone on vacation. None of those things actually mattered to these friends. And it was my own desire mixed up with people pleasing, wanting to show that I had accomplished something, that I was good enough, that I was enough.

But I can only thank the good Lord above for this epiphany. That dawned on me that they were my friends, and they valued me for my own intrinsic qualities, for who I was, for who I am not. Because what I accomplished or what I owned or what I was planning on contributing to the world, that was of far less importance than other qualities that I possess. So I want to take you through this a little bit.

I made a couple of notes here, and this is something that has really been on my mind. And I came across this phrase recently that you don’t have to justify your existence. And that just was a light bulb. And it was a reminder of this experience that I went through some years ago. So I hope that I can save you from many years of feeling less than or maybe inferior to some of your friends or family.

There may be, I don’t know, in laws or outlaws or extended family members that you always, maybe you feel like a little less than. And here are some of the things that I did to actually get over that. And this is what I would recommend if you’re interested in growing in this area. So think about qualities, enduring qualities, eternal qualities, attributes that you possess that have nothing at all to do with your accomplishments, your achievements, your contributions to the world.

So I made a list of some of the things that I believe that my friends liked about me, and that was part of the reason that we had this friendship. And so I’m loyal. I’m a very loyal friend. I’m there for people. I am a good listener. I have a great deal of empathy for others. I have a compassionate heart. I can help. Listen when people need a, you know, a kind ear or shoulder to cry on.

I also have an ability to figure things out, to kind of see aspects and perspectives that other people might not see. So when they’re struggling with problems or decision making, I can help offer another perspective. So offering my support, offering insights, and then inspiring people and encouraging people. All of these are my God given gifts that have nothing whatsoever to do with any amount of money I’ve earned or lost.

Any accomplishments or contributions or achievements, or trips that I’ve taken, or cars that I’ve driven, or places that I’ve lived, or clothes that I’ve worn, or my appearance, or how much weight I’ve gained or lost. None of that has anything to do with these other qualities that I just mentioned, which are enduring. They are eternal. And I remember so clearly with such a great sense of relief heading into this get together that I didn’t need to prove anything, that these people loved me and appreciated me for being me.

And I didn’t mean to bring a laundry list of what I had done since the last time I saw them. I could simply enjoy their company, enjoy the good food, hear about them and what they’re up to. And that’s another part of this formula that I want to share with you. So many people have told me that I am inspiring and encouraging. That’s what I strive to do on this channel, is to add some positive value to your life, to share a lot of the insights that I’ve developed over my many decades here in this life that I’m so grateful to, again, to the good lord above, for this gift of life.

And I strive to make the most of it. And I do have a little bit of that people pleasing streak in me. And I also have a sense of perfectionism where I like things to be. I have high standards for myself. And that’s okay as long as it’s not at someone else’s expense or at my own expense. So let me share with you an experience that I had.

And by the way, that get together that I had with my friends was probably one of the more memorable ones because I could just be in the moment. We could talk about what was going on. I didn’t feel as though I had to prove my worth or prove or justify my existence. I was enough. I am enough. And so are you. In fact, I’ve got a video on this channel called enoughness, and it’s one of my favorites.

I’ll probably replay that for you. And I believe that as children, as we’re growing, some of us feel that we aren’t enough. Maybe you came from a large family and you might have been lost in the shuffle, and you had to really stand up so that others would take note of you. So you always felt as if you had to, you know, accomplish and get the accolades and the appreciation from others, maybe it’s the opposite.

Maybe you were the only child and there was a lot of pressure on you to live up to your parents expectations. Maybe people said that you were more mature than your years and you felt that you had to be like that, and you couldn’t just be a kid and be silly and all of that. Maybe you came from a family of two children and you had an older sibling who was getting the spotlight and you felt a little less than, and so you had to scurry to keep up.

There’s all sorts of scenarios. And the reason I’m mentioning that is because when we’re children, we haven’t had enough years in life to develop the skills and experience that we can then learn from in these later years. So I’m hoping for those of you that might be in your twenties or your thirties or even beyond, because I was probably in my forties when I had that epiphany. And it was such a relief for me that I didn’t need to prove myself to anyone, that I could just be authentically who I am, and that that is enough.

So let me share a bit of evidence of this with you. And some years ago, after I had that epiphany, I was at a get together with my parents, and they were at a holiday gathering. I didn’t know a lot of the people there, and I was making small talk and listening and asking questions. And one of the things that I strive to do is to be interested.

I think it’s much more important to be interested than to be interesting. In other words, asking questions of others, asking about what they like to do, their hobbies, their interests, their background, and just kind of pick up threads with what they’re saying and ask more questions so that you can be engaged and actually listen and learn something. So I was at this get together with my parents, and I didn’t know the people, and I was asking a lot of questions, and it was very pleasant, just sort of a, you know, surface interaction with some, you know, food and so forth.

And the day or two following, my mom said, oh, gosh, Peggy, there were so many people that remarked about how interesting you are. And, you know, what an interesting daughter I have. And I thought, oh, my gosh, that in itself is interesting because I never talked about myself at all. I was actually focused on the other people. I was asking them about their backgrounds and what they like to do and their family and all of the other things.

Anything that you could talk about. And it was really focused on them and it reflected apparently back on me. And they thought that I was an interesting person because I was so engaged in the conversation. So that’s another tip that I have for you, is to ask questions, be engaged with others. And the beautiful side effect of all of this is that when you are focused on others sincerely, authentically, it takes the pressure off yourself.

You don’t need to talk about your trips, your accomplishments, what you’ve been up to. You can talk about what’s going on in the world. You can talk about what’s going on in their lives and just let your own natural, God given gifts and qualities and attributes rise to the surface. So that, my friends, is my positive encouragement for you today. You do not need to justify your existence.

God made you with your own unique destiny, skills, gifts and talents, and he would love for you to bless others in your life as he is blessing you. Thanks everybody for being on board, and I look forward to seeing you in next week’s broadcast. .

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