This Drives PEOPLE CRAZY! | The Healthy American Peggy Hall

➡ The Healthy American Peggy Hall discusses the importance of focusing on what we can control in life to avoid driving ourselves crazy. She also promotes the health benefits of high-quality olive oil, as recommended by Dr. Stephen Gundry. Peggy suggests writing down all the issues that bother us, distinguishing between what we can and can’t control, and avoiding living in denial of reality. She believes this approach can help reduce emotional responses to stressful situations.

➡ The text discusses various irritations the author experiences, such as loud leaf blowers, questionable school board decisions, constant interruptions, war, rising food prices, lateness, gossip, weather, taxes, and others’ opinions. The author suggests writing these irritations down and then determining if they are within your control to change. If they are not, the author recommends finding ways to cope or taking actions to influence change, such as attending meetings or writing letters.

➡ This text emphasizes the importance of focusing on what you can control in various situations, rather than stressing over things you can’t. It provides examples like dealing with a noisy gardener, questionable school curriculum, an interrupting coworker, rising food prices, and more. The author suggests practical solutions like setting boundaries, taking action where possible, and accepting what you can’t change. The overall message is to take control of your own actions and reactions, rather than trying to control others or external circumstances.

Hey friends, Peggy Hall back with you from the healthyamerican.org. You know, there are certain things that seem to be driving people crazy. And in my many years here at the helm of defending truth and freedom on this channel to help you live fully and freely, I have figured out that there is one underlying issue that seems to be very persistent. Now we’ve spoken about fear on this channel before about people who are addicted to dread, addicted to the drama, who want to actually be in the spin cycle, who sadly are not really interested in solutions because that takes away their obsession and their fixation that the sky is falling.

And actually my heart does go out to those that are really gripped in that spin cycle. I can’t imagine the ongoing dread and anxiety and fear that is all mixed into that. But what I want to talk about is something that is probably a little bit less known, does not get a lot of attention, but it is something that I have been speaking out against and teaching people about so that they can stop letting the world drive them crazy. And I’m going to share what that is with you in just a moment. Let me know what you think it is.

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Getoliveone.com slash Peggy. Friends, people are going crazy, haven’t you noticed it? And there are many reasons why people are going crazy in this day and age. And we can look at the headlines. We can look up in the skies. We can look at what the media is pushing. We can look at so many things that are really driving us crazy. But all of that, I would say, has the underlying cause that I’m about to share with you right now. And again, I’m just going to get right to the punchline. And that is when you are trying to control things that you can’t control.

That, my friends, is the recipe for driving yourself crazy. And I certainly don’t want you to drive yourself crazy. I came up with a list of things that can drive people crazy, things that drive me crazy. And it’s very important to distinguish between things that you control, that you can control, things that you can’t control. And then what some people do, and this is where I think it really drives them crazy, is they are choosing to live in denial of that reality. Denial of the reality that there are certain things that they can’t control. You cannot control other people’s behavior.

You cannot control their opinions. It’s not possible. Take it from a YouTuber. There are plenty of people that have all sorts of different perspectives. Some people love what I have to share. Others, it’s not the channel for them. And that is absolutely fine. But imagine if I was trying to turn myself inside out to please all of the people all the time. That would be living in denial of reality. And I would say in our current situation and the things that people have been going through for the last several years, we’ve seen people literally driving themselves crazy by not facing the reality of what is.

Now, let’s talk about some of the everyday irritations so that we can reduce some of our emotional response to the headlines and all of the other horrors that we see going on around us or that we hear going on around us. And this is one of the most beneficial solutions that I can offer you. And I’m a huge believer in getting out a pencil or a pen and getting out your notebook and actually writing this down because you can get these ideas and thoughts and emotions and feelings out of your body and onto the page.

And it’s very, very beneficial. This is one of the tips that I share in my online course called life after loss. Let me know if you’re in that program. We are helping dozens and dozens of people. My husband, Pastor David and I in a private live webinar format where you can share your sorrows or just be a participant silently. And we talk about how to get through these emotions, dealing with grief, not moving on with your life, but literally integrating and figuring out how to create this new and different life after loss. And one of the tools that is so powerful is writing.

No one has to read it. You don’t even need to keep it. But in this case, here is what I would recommend. So you’re going to get your notebook and a pen. And I really recommend doing it in a notebook rather than on the computer because your creative mind is connected to these activities when you’re writing. And it takes out some of the technology and that, you know, disconnect. So that’s what I would recommend if you would like to do it that way. But basically, you’re going to make a list and you’ll make a list of all of the issues that are bothering you.

And I mean all of the issues, the large irritations like wars in the Middle East. And I wouldn’t call that an irritation. I would call that, you know, a horror. And then all the way down to the smaller things. And I’ll give you an example. And this way you can empty out your mind of all of the frustrations, the anger, the irritations, the distractions that are going on. And we actually can begin to tackle it. So on the left side of your paper, you’re going to write down all of these issues. Put down the little irritations as well as the major ones.

And then after you get those down and you might think of other ones as you’re doing the activity and that’s absolutely fine. On the right side of the list. Well, before we get to the right side, let me tell you what’s on my side of the list. All right. So here’s an example from little to large gardeners with leaf blowers who are making noise, blowing dust around and not actually cleaning up the sidewalks. All right. This is one of my huge personal pet peeves. I don’t like the noise. I don’t like the blowing around of the dust.

It seems to happen right at the moments when I’m trying to get some work done. And, you know, the sound is so bad for your hearing. It literally can lead to hearing loss. So that is something that drives me crazy. It really irritates me. So I’m going to put that on the list. It doesn’t even really clean up the landscaping anyway. I mean, if they had a broom and a dust pan, that’s what I do when I’m doing my own gardening is I clean the things up and then I dispose of it that way. All right.

Let’s go a little kind of little too large. The school board wants to approve questionable textbooks and curriculum for the district. And you are opposed to this even if you don’t have a child or a grandchild in that school district, because you know that the school district has some ulterior motive, maybe a hidden agenda, as I like to say, a foot. And this is something that you’ve heard about. You read about it and it is really making your blood boil. All right. Here’s another one. Maybe you’re in a situation. I don’t have any coworkers, but maybe I have a spouse and I have a cell phone and I get these interruptions.

But imagine you’re trying to get something done and your coworker or a loved one is constantly interrupting you while you’re trying to get something done. I mean, that is like, oh, that’s an irritation that could go on your list. Here’s another one again, kind of little too large. You are unabashedly opposed to the war in the Middle East and you wish that there was an end to the atrocities and kind of add to that, that it’s difficult to have a rational conversation with people because it’s such a divisive topic and people’s minds seem to be made up before you can even present any information to the contrary.

So that might go on your list as well. How about the rising food prices? It is absolutely stunning. I was at the grocery store the other day and I am not kidding you for a few bags. It was $250. I don’t even know what we got. Hopefully we stocked up on something because when I look back in the pantry, I’m like, what did we spend that money on? So the food prices are rising and here I am grumbling about it. I’m going to talk to you about solutions in just a moment, but keep adding to your list.

Let me know in a comment what’s on your list. All right, your son, your daughter, your spouse, your sibling, someone that you interact with, a good friend, they’re always running late. And as a consequence, you are late as well. I’m going to talk about that. Maybe your spouse stays up late and you’d like to go to bed earlier. And then when your spouse comes to bed, you wake up and you can’t fall back to sleep. So any kind of irritations like this would go on your list. How about someone you know, maybe an acquaintance, maybe you’re on a committee and there’s a person that you’re talking about things and they’re always gossiping and they’re very negative.

And they’re, I would say that gossiping is even worst, in my opinion, worse than worse than just being negative because it has a person as the target who isn’t even there. I’ll have to cover gossiping in another broadcast on my Living Swell channel because that is such an important topic to dive into. And it’s something that really is a huge irritation to me. And I put up a lot of healthy boundaries around that. Okay, let’s say you’re bothered by the weather, real or manufactured. Maybe you’re bothered by other drivers and you’re always yelling things and honking your horn and shaking your fist and who knows what else you’re doing when you’re irritated by these drivers.

Maybe it’s taxes. And I know there are plenty of people that have figured out a way to not pay their income tax. You know what, God bless them. I don’t want to go to prison. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life in court. Fighting this is what happens to a lot of people or they lose their homes. Not something for me. I wish that my taxes went to something that I believed in and certainly I could grumble about it. But I follow the books, meaning I know exactly what I can do related to having legal deductions and expenses and so forth.

But yeah, it drives me bonkers. All right. How about being irritated by other people’s opinions? And then I want to tell you a story. In fact, I’ll just tell it to you right now. So this one part of town that I was driving through, there was a sign that was damaged and it was right on the road. And it was it was an Amco sign. I’m just going to tell you, you know, double A, beep, beep, MCO. I guess the advertisements are stuck in my mind from all those years ago. And I’m driving by it again and again, saying to myself, complaining and not only saying to myself, but to my husband, if he was in the car, when are they ever going to fix this sign? It just makes the whole area look run down.

And when you have one sign that’s run down, the next thing, something else gets run down and then there is the rapid decline. I’ve spoken before about how things are in decline and, you know, just fixing a few things could actually make things look better. And I kept saying to myself, I’ve got to write to the city. I’ve got to write to the city. I’ve got to write to the city. You know, I never wrote to the city. I meant to do so, but I was so busy on other things. And what would happen is I drive by that AMCO sign and I would do a big sigh.

I would drop my shoulders and I would complain. Now, one of my mottos is create, don’t complain or don’t complain, create, don’t complain, create a solution, come up with a solution. And I have endeavored to really maybe 80 or 90 percent of the time have some sort of solution, which in this case would have been to call the city. But I’ll tell you what happened. We were driving down the road and I know when we’re coming up to it, it’s almost like I’m ready to get irritated. And I look and could you believe it? They fixed the sign.

That AA BEEP BEEP MCO sign was fixed. And it was like one of my happiest days because it was something that was like a drain on me. It was driving me crazy. I was letting it drive me crazy because I wasn’t taking action. All right. I’m sure you have many more things on your list. And I just love this journal. And this is where I would write down all of my items. And then on the right hand side of the page, this is where the fun begins. This is where you decide, is this something that I have control over? And if I don’t have control over it, is this something where I can make an impact? What is it that I personally can do in this scenario, in this irritation, in this situation? And what is it that I can let go of? What can I give over to God? Or what can I pray about? Or what can I focus on someone else doing something about it? And it’s not my responsibility.

So that’s where we’re going to go through my list again here. So let’s say number one, the gardeners with leaf blowers. All right. I’m not in charge of the landscaping in our community. So I don’t have the right to tell the leaf blowers to stop using that machine. And of course, in California, they’re going to get rid of any of the gas powered blowers. So probably some of that’s going to go by the wayside. So I don’t have control over the gardeners. However, what I personally could do is I could go to an HOA meeting, or I could write a letter to the HOA board.

And if it is not from a community that’s doing this and it’s just your neighbor, well, perhaps you could have a conversation with your neighbor. So there are a couple of suggestions where it’s not your responsibility and it’s not really under your control unless it’s your gardener doing this. So you need to be creative and think outside the box in terms of what is it that I could actually do. And friends, I’m telling you, taking the action, even if it doesn’t yield the results, at least you can say at least. And at least two little words that pack a powerful punch.

And you can say, at least I took action to try to change this. You have no control over the results. You have no control over whether the HOA agrees with you, over whether your neighbor agrees with you, over whether the gardener agrees with you. But you do have control over your actions. What else could you do? You could find out the schedule of when the gardener is doing that. And you could leave. You can make sure that you’re not at home. That’s when you could go get gas in your car or go grocery shopping or go for a walk.

You could put on headphones. You could go to a different place in the house. So why in the, you know how I like to say it, non-spinning world are you fighting against reality when you have not taken these steps? So there’s one example. The school board wants to approve the questionable textbooks in the curriculum. I think you know what you could do. Let me know in a comment. Oh, yes, you could write a letter. You could go to the board or you could say, this is not under my responsibility. I will pray for those to come to discernment.

Maybe you could talk to parents and educate them and have them go to the school board. Maybe you could send an email. So there are things that you can do and you have to decide whether or not that is worth your time, effort, energy, and resources. It may not be. Maybe you are more concerned with the quality of the water, the quality of the air. Maybe you are more concerned with other things in your life, but don’t let this drive you crazy. Mark it off your list. It’s not under your control or decide that you want to be engaged.

All right. Your co-worker constantly interrupts you when you’re trying to get something done. You have no control over your co-worker’s behavior, period. Your co-worker is going to do it or not do it. What you can do is you can close your door. You could put up a sign and say, on a deadline, do not disturb until 4 p.m. You could have a conversation. It may not stop your co-worker from coming over, but you only can control yourself. All right. You’re against the war in the Middle East. You wish there was an end to the atrocities.

I think some of these other techniques could apply as well. You could write letters to the senators. I mean, frankly, it’s not your country. It’s not your people. Perhaps they are if you come from that area or you have relatives there. So I would say prayer. And I don’t think you have a lot of control or even influence in doing anything about that. Maybe I’m wrong. Let me know in a comment below. I think praying about that, letting others know, but unless you are the commander in charge, you don’t actually have any specific control or responsibility immediately in that area.

Sad to say. I wish I did. Food prices keep rising. Food prices keep rising. You’re spending outside your budget. Well, this isn’t one as well where you could shop at a different store. You could write out a meal plan. You could think about other options. Maybe there are food pantries where you could get your food that would help supplement whatever you can pay for. Maybe you can grow your own. Maybe you can go into a co-op. Maybe you can not eat out. So you need to think about what it is you can do. You cannot control the rising food prices.

That, my friends, is going to drive you crazy if all you do is complain about it. So taking action in a way that you can take action is very empowering. All right, I want to talk about the loved one running late and so-called making you late. No one can make you late but yourself. You’re going to set a compassionate boundary. You’re going to let them know that I am leaving at 1045. And if you’re ready, great, we’ll go together. And if you’re not, I’ll be leaving anyway. And you leave it at that. And they either will be ready or they’ll have to find their own way.

You saying that they are making you late is not accurate unless you can’t drive and they’re the ones with the keys. And in that case, you would need to find a different arrangement. You would need to get a personal driver, an Uber, a friend. There is another way and you can figure it out. You’re responsible for yourself. You’re not responsible for, unless it’s a child under adult age. And if that’s the case, then you need to create a buffer time zone there so that you can get them ready earlier.

But by and large, you’re responsible for yourself and not for the other adults. Your spouse stays up late and then you wake up when he or she comes to bed. Then maybe you have a cutoff time and you say if you’re not in bed by 1115, you need to sleep on the sofa. Maybe you have a guest room and they can sleep in the guest room. And you need to set boundaries and you cannot control their behavior. They’re going to go to bed when they want to go to bed. You can only control your behavior.

And your behavior would be the bedroom doors close and you ain’t getting in. I’m not saying you have to do it that way, but just as an example of what you can control and what you can’t control. All right. The acquaintance is always gossiping. That’s where you say, oh, you know, I don’t really like to engage in those kinds of conversations and you get up and you leave. You don’t tell the person to stop doing it. You can’t control what they’re going to do, but you simply say, oh gosh, you know, Sally’s not here and I don’t really like to talk about her when she’s not.

And then you get up and you leave and that’s it. I’ve got a whole other broadcast I can talk about overcoming those gossips. And then of course the weather, other drivers, taxes, other people’s opinions. I don’t think you have any control over that whatsoever other than if it’s raining, you put on a raincoat. Oh, and a public service announcement. You don’t need to put on a raincoat to keep other people dry. I’ll just let you mull that one over. Thank you friends so much for being on board. I really appreciate it. Thanks so much.

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