➡ The speaker is hosting a webinar where they discuss their new venture and encourage people to invest. They also promote their new book, “Common Sense Child Rearing”, and ask listeners to buy it from Amazon on a specific date to boost its ranking. The speaker defends their right to sell products and believes in free dialogue about the value of products. They also share the backstory of how the book came about and what it entails.
➡ The author, a doctor, wrote a book about raising children in a toxic world, focusing on the adult’s attitude towards child-rearing rather than specific details like nutrition. Despite initial rejection from publishers due to his critical views on schooling, the book was eventually published after a chance encounter at a conference. The author’s approach to patient care, which involves listening to and learning from patients, influenced his views on child-rearing. The book was inspired by a life-changing experience with a 7-year-old patient 18 years ago, which taught him the importance of listening to children and allowing them to express themselves freely.
➡ A child was having trouble at school, often getting blamed for things he didn’t do. He felt his teacher was lying about his actions, which led to him acting out in hopes of being sent home. The child opened up about his experiences after being given a chance to speak freely. The key takeaway is that understanding and supporting a child, even in difficult situations, is crucial for their well-being.
➡ The text discusses the importance of active listening in medical practice, particularly with children. The author shares his experiences with patients, emphasizing the need to understand their stories and validate their experiences. He also discusses his stance against vaccines and his belief that symptoms are not diseases but expressions of needs or strategies to communicate something. The author suggests that children, even those with conditions like autism, are trying to communicate their needs and gratitude to their parents, and it’s important to understand and respect this.
➡ The text discusses the author’s belief that children, particularly those labeled as autistic, are trying to communicate their discomfort with their environment and lifestyle, including diet and vaccinations. The author suggests that these children are not the problem, but are instead reacting to problems in their environment. He encourages parents to listen to their children, understand their perspective, and make necessary changes. The author also promotes his book, which further explores these ideas.

Okay. Welcome everybody. Today is another Wednesday webinar back from holidays. I didn’t go anywhere but back doing Wednesday webinars. I hope everybody had a good holiday season and having a happy start to the new year. And yeah, thanks for joining me and glad you’re here. Just had a few announcements. One is again, we’ve I keep saying this, but we have had an extremely gratifying response to our call for people who are interested in investing in this new venture with a sprouting facility, I believe, in Alabama. And there’s still possible conversations to had to be had. So if you’re still somebody who’s maybe interested in investing in this venture, please contact us at customer service and we’ll put you in the, you know, hook you up with eventually talking to Asher about what this all would entail and what your involvement would be.

And we’re just really grateful for everybody thus far who stepped up and shown interest. And we’re hoping we can work something out that works for everybody. And I hope everybody is okay. Is being able to hear this on the live stream. I think it is on YouTube. Thanks to the amazing Tricia. We had some problems there for a minute, but I think we got it straightened out. So hopefully we’re good to go. The only other thing I wanted to say is I know every, not every time, but frequently when I post a video or webinar, somebody has or a few people, maybe sometimes nobody, but sometimes somebody has a comment on selling products.

And the reason I say this is because I would say today’s webinar is an unabashed effort to sell a product, which means a book. And the book is common sense child rearing. And I’ll tell you a little bit about that. So there’s no doubt that that’s part of what today’s webinar is to encourage people to not only buy a book, but buy more than one copy of a book. And not only to buy the book, but to buy it from Amazon on January 18th, Saturday between noon and 1. And that means that if a lot of people buy it on that day, and I’m hoping thousands of copies will be sold, that that means that the Amazon rankings go up and that triggers a bunch of things like people reviewing it, and it gets attention and it becomes the number one book on pediatrics and parenting.

And then it gets me to have interviews with some of the big parenting mommy type of podcasts and shows. And so then we get the ideas that I’m talking about more into the popular culture, which is ultimately the idea. So if you’re interested in helping with that effort, I would encourage you to join us in this. Join us means actually buying two or more copies of the book from Amazon. Common sense, child rearing. We’ll put a link to Amazon and buy it between noon and one on Saturday, January 18th. I believe that’s the correct date, by the way.

I am not somebody who’s against me or anybody speaking about the store and the products that we sell. Do that without any reservation. Just like I think it’s fine for your local butcher to tell you, tell you about how the meat was raised, or the green grocer to tell you how the produce or fruit was raised, or the clothing store to tell you how the clothes, clothes were manufactured or sewn. And then you have the possibility, the right to choose whether to purchase it or not. Nobody’s forcing you. Nobody’s twisting anybody’s arm. I frankly don’t even mind, you know, people like Mercola and McCullough selling zithromycin and vitamin D supplements and synthetic vitamins.

I’m all for it. Let them sell it. Let them talk about why they think it’s good, we should have free dialogue. I happen to think those are not the kind of products that I would want to buy. And I would have no problem with speaking out about why that’s the case. And I have no problem with them trying to make the case that everybody should buy their products. And all I can say is if that doesn’t, if that doesn’t work for you, then I would expect that you don’t go into stores and you don’t purchase any products because having somebody tell you about what they’re offering to you and then you making a deal with them, meaning you take their product and you give them something in return, usually money, that that system doesn’t work for you and you would like to choose some other system of doing this, like maybe having the government tell you what you can buy and maybe that’s your choice.

If that’s your choice, that’s fine. But I don’t want to have anything to do with that choice. I would rather freely try to explain why, for instance, choosing to buy this book might actually enhance your life and the lives of other people that you know, maybe in your family, particularly people who have children, so that we can all live in a happier, healthy, healthier, more sane place. So I have no problems with doing that. And so today’s webinar will. Essentially, I’m going to make the case to explain why I wrote this book, what it’s about, and then read the first chapter.

I think all of it I’ll see. But stop along the way to explain it and maybe give you a sense of what you would be getting from this book. You know, I’m offering you a product out of my life, in a sense, something that I have essentially learned over my years of being, as I say, a doctor with a lot of children, patients, a parent of three children, a stepparent of one child, seven grandchildren, and a lot of children that I’ve known in other capacities. So that’s where I’m coming from. So the name of the book is Common Sense Parenting.

The people who are publishing it are Steiner Books. And again, we’ll put the link on Amazon. And again, one more time, we’re asking you to purchase two or more copies, if possible, on January 18th between noon and 1. And that will hopefully get the best bang for the purchase in the rankings. So the first thing, how did this book come about? I had at. By this point, I had written three books for a publisher called Chelsea Green. I think they’re in Vermont. I know they’re in Vermont. And I actually had a wonderful editor who edited all three books.

And I can say without any reservations that she made each of the books better. They’re obviously my ideas. And she. And so anything that was wrong, and there was a lot wrong in particularly the vaccine book. But anyways, whatever. Whatever she did helped the book, not just with the, you know, editing and get the getting the punctuation and. But also to certain extents, the style and the making sure the facts were all correct and the references were all correct. She did a really good job with all those. So she happened to be at a Weston Price conference, this is probably six, seven years ago, and she was there to help Chelsea Green sell the books, including my books.

And we happened to be on the same, not the same plane going home, but we were at the airport at the same time, in the same section of the airport, waiting for our planes to take us home. And we both had about an hour before we had to board, so we had an hour to just basically sit and talk. And she at the time was a single mother who had adopted a child. And the child was having some issues. And so there we were. And so some of the things I had talked about had to do with children.

And so obviously I had some thoughts on child rearing and, you know, all kinds of things to do with children and food, etc. So I guess out of that she decided to see If I had any insights that could help with her child’s difficulties. So she explained the situation, and I did what I usually do and told her a few things. I don’t remember what I told her. I don’t remember if it was helpful or profound or stupid or anything. I don’t remember anything about what I said. But for some reason at the end of that, she said, you know, your next book should be a book called how to Raise Healthy Children in a Toxic World.

I thought, okay. And I didn’t really think I wanted to write that book. But anyways, we left it at that. And for some reason, maybe a few weeks later. So again, we’re talking at least six or seven, maybe eight years ago. So I think that it’s important to remember that. That there’s a lot of things I’ve learned in these last five years that. So this book was written maybe six, seven, eight years ago. And I basically went home and wrote the book in about a few weeks maybe. But that’s pretty typical for me. And this book doesn’t have a lot of references.

It’s not so much of a science book where you need to reference everything in this study and that study, it. It’s basically what I’ve seen over my life of being, like I say, a doctor and a father and a grandfather, etc. And so I wrote it, and my wife Linda, who used to be an editor for the San Francisco Chronicle, and really she. She’s the one who says that. Who I say, I’ve never written a sentence that she didn’t correct. Which is true because I don’t really do punctuation. But anyway, she cleaned it up. We sent it to.

To this editor at Chelsea Green. She really liked it, but for some reason the owner of the company did. Didn’t like it and said, we’re not publishing this. It was. A lot of it had to do with school. And as probably some of you have heard, I’m not a big fan of school. And that’s putting it mildly. And so we had a little discussion about that. I was a little surprised that they wouldn’t. In fact, I think they had a meeting and this editor tried to get them to do it, but to no avail. So the book was sort of done.

And I didn’t just think to send it to other publishers. I don’t know why. I just didn’t do it. So it basically sat there on my desk. Every once in a while over the next, say, six years or so, somebody would say, oh, I heard you wrote A book. Or I would mention it and I would send them to it. Oh, I really like your book. You should publish it. And yeah, yeah, maybe someday. And at some point I actually revisited it with Chelsea and the owner again said no. Then it was probably a year and a half ago again at a Weston Price conference.

The. I think the owner or the publisher, I’m not sure his official title at Steiner Books, I think it’s called. We were talking and I happened to mention that I had written a book about children and they probably wouldn’t like it because I wasn’t really into Waldorf schools and had a lot of negative things to say about school. And he said, oh, let me see it. And I ended up sending it to him and he apparently really liked it. And so we eventually made a deal and then they cleaned it up a little bit and published it.

And that’s essentially how it got went from sitting on my computer for years to being a finished published book whose Launch date is January 14th, so next week. And again, the purpose of this book is, is not, it’s. It’s not so much. It’s not a quote science book, it’s. It’s how to common sense child rearing and how to raise healthy children in a toxic world. And a lot of the things I say, well, nutrition, we’ve already been over that, you know, a million times and kind of eat nourishing traditions and I’ll have a few other things to say about that.

But it’s not a book about the details of, say, how to feed your children. It’s really about the attitude of an adult in reference to how to raise a child. That’s really the essence of this book. So I thought with that introduction. Let me start with chapter one. I thought this was the best way to give people a sense of it and the book, the chapter is called Choosing Sides and I’m going to just start reading and maybe make a few comments. Comments along the way. About 18 years ago, I had an experience that forever changed my view on raising children.

It wasn’t as if it came out of the blue, as my views had certainly been moving in that direction for years before that. But it was one of those galvanizing events that, however small it seemed at the time, changed my views for good. There was no going back in medicine is a kind of cliche for doctors to say that they learn many important things from their patients. We heard it often in medical school and residency and it continues in one’s further medical education. In contrast, what I frequently hear from patients is that they did something unusual for whatever ails them, they they excitedly went to tell their doctor about it, and the doctor was either not interested or outright dismissive.

I have made it my practice for decades that if a patient comes in and tells me they cured their lupus by drinking horse urine, I asked them how much and which horse. It’s not necessarily that I automatically believe that this intervention actually cured their lupus, or that it will be a therapy worth me looking into, but as a matter of respect for the patient, I owe it to them to listen. Also, I can categorically state that many, if not most, of the successful therapies I have used in my career as a doctor have first been brought to me by my patients.

The key though, is knowing how to ask, how to listen, and how to put this into a larger framework. That is a quote, technique of learning from patients, a skill most doctors are sorely lacking. Let me set the stage for my experience of 18 years ago in which a 7 year old boy taught me a life changing lesson. In some ways, this book is a way of thanking that guy for taking the trouble to be straight with me and trusting that I would listen. At the time, I had been a doctor for about 20 years. For most of those 20 years, I had been practicing anthroposophical medicine in my small general practice.

I was also the school doctor for three different Waldorf schools. From the early days of the Waldorf School movement in the 1920s, the College of teachers would meet once a month with the school doctor to have a child study. In a child study, the various teachers of the child would present their observations and their picture of the child to the entire faculty. In addition, the school doctor would examine the child in their office and observe the child for a two hour period one morning. Then the school doctor would add their observations to the developing picture of the child presented at the child study.

The purpose of the child study was not necessarily to fix the child as much as to gain a fuller understanding of just who this human being is. Having done this for three different schools for 20 years, once a month with each school, I had built up significant experience with observing children, working with children in need, and also observing various teachers. Over that time, I seemed to develop at least some skill in presenting imaginative pictures of children which help the teachers work with the child in the future. The experience I had 18 years ago happened when a nearby Waldorf school with no trained doctor in their community asked me to come down for two days to observe various children in their school and Do a number of child studies for the children I observed had observed.

The two day visit also came about six months after my first exposure to nonviolent communication, nvc, which influenced the way I conducted my interviews and examinations of the children. In those six months, I intensively studied the work of Carl Rogers, the man Marshall Rosenberg talked about as being the inspiration for nvc. In particular the way he conducted interviews. This is the brief background for the meeting with my seven year old friend. As I set up to work that day in a school I had never visited before, I established the quote, rules of how I wanted to conduct my day.

The school wanted me to see children they were having issues with either in relation to behavior or learning or sometimes physical health challenges. The parents had all consented to my seeing the child one time as a quote, patient. I asked the primary teacher of the child to write no more than one paragraph explaining why they wanted me to see the child. Then I explained to the parents and child as they sat down in the room that the first thing I did in these exams was speak directly and ask questions, questions directly to the child. I asked that the parents not intervene or interrupt no matter how much they disagreed with the child or even if they thought the child was giving me factually inaccurate information.

Once I finished talking to the child, I would give the parents whatever time they needed to tell me whatever they wanted to say. They could fill in the details, correct things the child said or whatever. However, in this phase, I asked the child that the child be allowed to interrupt the parent. I usually said I realized this was not fair, but these are the rules. In each case, the parents agree to these rules. By the way, and this isn’t in the book, this was a. One of the core of the techniques because the purpose of this, even though, as I say, it wasn’t fair.

First of all, many of the children would laugh when they hear the rules because this isn’t what they expected. But I was trying to communicate that here the child is, you know, it’s, it’s the center of this encounter and we listen to the child. So you don’t interrupt the child, but the child can interrupt you. That’s how we’re going to work this. And that was a key. And I would encourage anybody who works with children to consider adopting this strategy because it was. Worked wonderfully for me. Okay, back to reading. I don’t remember much about this particular boy’s appearance, only that he appeared robust and had a baseball cap pull down over his eyes so he looked sort of like that that’s how he came in.

I explained the rules and the mother agreed and only said, he probably won’t talk to you much. I read the paragraph written by the first grade teacher, which told me that he had no particular physical complaints, but was very disruptive in class, even physically lashing out at other children to the point that they didn’t know if they could allow him to continue at the school as the parents were dedicated to the Waldorf ideals. This was a real crisis for the school and the family. What follows below is my paraphrased recollection of the important points of our dialogue.

Obviously, I don’t remember his exact words, but the gist of it is accurate. So me. Hey, how’s it going, boy? Okay. I hear you’re in first grade, is that correct? Yes. How’s it going in school? Fine. At this point, I probably asked a few more general questions about how many brothers and sisters he had, what he liked to do, things like that. In each case, he would give me one word answers, clearly not that interested in talking much to me at some point soon I got back to the issue. So, me. So, I hear there are some troubles in school.

Do you know anything about this boy? Yes. My teacher lies. The mother was clearly taken aback and looked like she wanted to say something. I gave her a look as if to remind her of the quote rules, and she remained quiet. The important step at this point is to continue the dialogue and get as much information as possible, but never to ask a why question. That was the core of Carl Rogers technique. Ask how, when, what, where, everything you can think of to clarify the issue. This isn’t in the book. But never ask why for two reasons.

One, it shifts the person from what he called the right brain, which he said knows the trouble, to the left brain, which he said doesn’t know the trouble. So that’s the first reason you want a person in their, quote, right brain to be in sort of in tune and intuiting what the. What the issue really is. And the second reason is it’s up to the doctor supposedly to know why not ask the patient why you have this trouble? So that’s a key part of this that’s not in the book. But back to the book. For some reason, this seems to stop the dialogue in its tracks and leads nowhere.

So back to the dialogue here. Me. What does she lie about? Well, the other day she said I hit Freddy, but I didn’t. And the teacher said I did and lied about it. Me. Can you tell me what happened that led her up to saying you hit Freddy? Yeah. Freddy shot a spitball at my friend Joey. I told Freddie to stop and he wouldn’t. Then what happened? I kept telling him to stop and he wouldn’t listen. Another boy laughed at Joey and called him a baby. Then what did you do? I went over to Freddy and said he had to stop now and he wouldn’t listen.

He pushed me, so I pushed him back and that was the end of it. The teacher saw me push Freddy and sent me out of the room. She lied. Freddy pushed me first. She always lies and blames me for everything. Can you think of another time when she blamed you for something? Yes. It happens almost every day. Someone laughs or talks loud, so I join in the laughing. She only punishes me. It’s not fair. Was that something that happened the other day? Yes. She lied again. Someone threw a glass at one of the other kids, not me, and the teacher blamed me for it.

She lies all the time. So you didn’t throw the glass? No, Someone else did. But I would throw a glass. Now here’s the mother who said. Who? I said, can’t help herself. But the teacher said she saw you throw the glass. That’s why you got sent home from school that day. Someone could have gotten hurt. I reminded the mother of the rules. But since. Since this was said, I had to deal with it. Me, did you throw a glass, boy? Jimmy threw the glass first and then other people threw things. And I threw a glass jar and it broke.

Is there anything else about school you want to tell me? At this point, the boy who supposedly wouldn’t talk to me launched into a 10 minute monologue about all the unfair things that happened at school. How he was not allowed to go out for recess, the only part he liked if the class was bad. How everyone talked out of turn, but the teacher lied and blamed it on him. He talked about how he hated school and wanted to play in the creek in the back of the new house they had just moved into. Throughout this time, I just kept asking him clarifying questions, mostly telling him I just wanted to make sure I got the story correct.

He probably went on for half an hour describing everything in life, in school, and in particular, everything he thought was unfair. Mostly because I had other children to see. I said I needed to move on here, but wanted to know if he thought I had heard his story and if he thought I understood the situation. He looked at his mother and said the first of two things that changed my world. He said, quote, hey, he’s on my side. At that point, you are allowed to ask one why question? Only one, so make it a good one.

So I asked him, so why did you throw that glass jar? He looked at me and said, so they would send me home and I would never come back. I asked him my final question, which was, is there anything you would like to do for me right now? Is there anything you would like me to do for you right now? He answered, yes, Tell them to let me stay home and play or to stop lying. I said I would do my best, but the outcome was probably not up to me. I asked the mother if she had anything she wanted to add, but she was too shaken up to say much.

I examined him and told them both I would be talking to the teachers later that day. We shook hands, he gave me a big grin, and we parted ways. Here’s my first and most important message of this book, one that seems so simple but can be so hard to see. It is the message that came through loud and clear in this visit. If you want to raise a healthy child in a toxic culture, get on your child’s side and say, stay there, no matter what. The rest of the book explores what staying on your child’s side really means.

Okay, so that’s chapter one. I still, as I said, I still remember as. As we were talking and this boy who supposedly wouldn’t talk to me was going on and on about the creek and the tadpoles. And there was one question I left left out of this, which was I said, and I said this very deliberately. Do you have any problems? Because they had said he has social problems. Right, so. Meaning getting along with other children. I suppose so. I said, do you have trouble getting along with your friends when you’re playing at the creek? And he looked at me like I had three heads, like that was a stupid question, which it was, because I knew that he would say, I don’t know what you mean.

And I said, well, like, do you fight? He said, well, sort of like we wrestle and stuff. I said, like, really angry fight. And he laughed and said, no. And obviously that wasn’t the case. I could tell that. And he doesn’t have. Didn’t have social problems. He doesn’t have opposite oppositional Defiant disorder. And what I tried to convey in this little chapter is he had a strategy. And the strategy was, I don’t like the way things are happening in this school. I don’t like the whole idea. I have something else that I want to do, and I’m going to figure out a way to get myself kicked out of this school so that I can do what I want with my life.

I think that’s what was happening. But it turns out that. Or he was willing because in my estimation, he was a, a bright and friendly and cooperative and actually kind of a kind fellow. He was willing to stick it out at school and actually probably, you know, do well and, you know, get along with everybody as long as the, quote, lying would stop. And so then when I said I would talk to them about it, he was satisfied with that because he knew I would listen to him. He knew I had listened to him. And that was one of the times that I learned this technique, which we all do at the clinic.

And we, I did basically every patient from that day on. I hear the story, ask all these questions, never ask why. Tell the story back to the patient, ask them if I got it right or to correct me if I didn’t get it right. Like if I thought your left foot hurt and it’s actually your right foot, please correct me so that I. So that the person. So that not only do I get the story right, the facts right, but the person knows that I’m going to listen and hear what they have to say. And all I can say is that was probably the most profound therapeutic intervention that I’ve ever come across in my life.

Just this simple act of listening, conveying and making sure that people know that you heard them, that you care enough to hear their story and you’re going to take some action based on this story. And I still remember this image of him at the end of it. You know, we were done. He stands up, sticks out his hand, says, thanks mister, and walked out of the room. And I don’t know what happened. I don’t know if I never heard from the family or him or the teachers again. I don’t think they really enjoyed my perspective on all these things that were happening in the school.

So I have no idea what happened to him. But my suspicion, and it’s only a guess, is that that encounter of a somebody in a so called position of authority really taking his side, made a difference in his life. And I would love to see if that’s. It’s true. So somehow if the little boy who’s now probably a grown man, happens to hear this and can verify that, I would love to hear about it. So then the book goes on to say, well, what does it actually mean to choose sides? And, and what does it mean to be on your child’s side no matter what? And this then inspired Me to even come up with a kind of a different.

Not sure what the right word is like definition or conception of what a child is. Obviously you have this child, it’s this little person comes out of the mother and all that stuff. But what’s really happening here and. And a number of other encounters stimulated me to think. One of the ways of seeing a child is a child is that spiritual being. And I’m not sure I’m going to define spiritual being, but is that this being that comes down to live in this body and out of their amazing love and respect for their parents and, and gratitude for their parents giving them life, not just biologically, but sheltering them and feeding them and hopefully loving them and supporting them because of the gratitude they feel for that tries to help their parents live in a new and better way.

I’m sure that’s not the only definition of a child because children are independent, you know, individuals themselves, so they have their own agenda. So this is not the only thing they’re doing. But this concept of the child as being grateful and giving back to the parents went a long way in me being able to help medically children who were not doing well. So let me give you an example of what I mean. You could particularly see this over the years, obviously because of my stance on vaccines. And like I said over the years, I. I’ve said this before, I don’t remember exactly, but I was.

Had a lot of pediatric patients and I was in practice almost 40 years. As far as I remember, I’ve given between three and seven plain tetanus shots in my career. I only remember the one boy who I gave tetanus shot to. And all of them were because their parents essentially insisted. So I went out of my way to get plain tetanus. It didn’t come with deep D or dpt. It was just plain tetanus was not easy to get. I don’t even know if you can get it anymore. And each of them I gave either one or two, not the all three.

And then I just couldn’t do it anymore. And I said, if you want to get this, you have to give it somewhere else. And I still would apologize to all three to seven of those children for doing that because I didn’t know any better. I knew a little bit better, but not enough to say as no possible way I’m doing this. So. But. So anyways, because of my stance, obvious public stance against vaccines and the obvious connection between vaccines and autism and the fact that I had worked in autistic Communities, you know, like Camphill Villages and camps for autistic children.

And even in college I tutored so called autistic children. So I had a long history of connection with autistic children. I ended up having a lot of autistic patients or children who were called autistic. And one of them taught me another huge lesson which isn’t in the book but it’s in the same vein. And it was the, and what this inspired me to really make sort of the final connection that all symptoms have a meaning. All of the things we call diseases are not diseases. Diseases Diseases like we think their ways of expressing a, a strategy to get a certain thing or need accomplished.

I think that’s the best way I can say it. And that I would. Every single person and particularly children, pediatric, pediatric patient that I saw, I would ask myself and this is every patient, but in particular children, why would their body be doing this? What’s the, what are they trying to communicate? What need are they trying to address by having such and such a symptom? And it’s obviously pretty difficult with a child who’s, you know, mostly non verbal and banging their head against the wall and can’t be out in public and, and all of the sort of really severe autistic kind of characteristics like how can anybody possibly play this as being a sound and effective strategy to express your gratitude to your parents? That was a difficult one for me, but one boy in particular taught me this.

So my thinking was so here you are, this being who comes down into this body, into these, with this sense of gratitude to these two people, mother and father, who gave you life. And let’s not even talk about the birth experience which is often horrendous. But on day one of life, they, your parents acquiesce to giving you an injection full of poisons to. In order to prevent you from getting a sexually transmitted disease allegedly from a make believe virus. So that’s the actual scenario. Those are what you would call the, the observable facts. Every part of that, what I just said is, is, is the actual case.

So how would you communicate to the. So obviously your reaction as this child is wait a minute, there’s something wrong here. Like, like I thought I was coming into this wise family of people who knew how to take care of me. And I have such love for my parents. I mean we. What is going on here? And so you would try to tell them look, we have to rethink this. You guys can’t accept this, you can’t go along with this anymore. But you’re a one day old baby. You can’t talk, you can’t, you know, write them a text message.

You’re, you’re a one day old baby. So what do you do? You cry. And you cry and you cry and the idea is to get your parents attention and you can cry so much that if you’re lucky and they actually have the thought, wait a minute, something really wrong happened to our precious baby. We’re going to look into it. Was it what I ate? Maybe not. Was it dubbed this? Was it that? Maybe it was this injection that this guy gave, told me was safe. And maybe I’m going to look into it and find this out.

Now some parents, you know, don’t seem to get it after that one episode. And so you go on and maybe you calm down and say, well, I’m okay now. And so I wait. And then at two months they do the whole thing all over again. Now just don’t get me wrong here. I’m not discounting that there is actually a physical toxic assault with aluminum and cell cultures and antibiotics in this so called vaccine and all the rest of it. I’m not discounting a physical poisoning as well. But I’m thinking of this from the standpoint of the baby.

Like, oh my God, they’re doing this all over again. So I have to warn them that this is not the way to live. This is not the way to raise your children. This is not the way even for you to live. And like you’re feeding me formula and it’s, you don’t want to eat artificial food. You know, we came into this world and there’s all this amazing natural food provided for us. And there’s breast milk specifically for the babies. And you’re giving me like artificial cow’s milk. It’s not even like actually from a cow. It’s like chemicalized cow’s milk with all these other chemicals that are said to be so, quote, vitamins in it.

Like this isn’t the way to live folks. And I’m so grateful for you for giving me life. Like we have to rethink this. But of course, you’re two months old, you can’t say that. You don’t have the words, you don’t have the concepts to say this. So what do you do? I ended up thinking what you do is you have, you adopt a strategy for making your parents life as miserable as you can. You make them sleep deprived, you cry all night, you have rashes all over your body and it could be from, you know, it could be vaccines, could be it, or that your mother didn’t actually want to have a child.

I’ve seen this in many different situations where the child is trying to communicate that we have to clear something up here. And I don’t know any other way to get my message across. So I’m going to make your life miserable. And so many parents have said to me, our life was so intolerable, our life was so miserable because of their asthma and their rashes and their this and their that that finally, in their behavior, they were, quote, autistic. You can call it whatever you want. There’s no disease. These are your, your, your wisdom, part of your being, crying out to your beloved parents.

They have to rethink this and they have to see this differently, not just for your sake, but for their own sake. They can’t live like this. And again, I’m not discounting the fact that the food is also a problem and the components of the vaccines are also a problem. So you’ve got essentially two problems. You’ve got all that, plus you have the need to somehow stop this madness. And to me, that becomes the autistic person. And they just are so at their wit’s end. Just like this, you develop a strategy. Just like this little boy developed a strategy to get kicked out of a school that he clearly despised.

Unless they were going to change how they did things and changed particularly what he saw was their lying to, to him or about him. Now, I’m not here to say that necessarily every part of his story was correct, but that’s not the point because that’s how he saw it. And once you take his side and hear the story, then you can effectively go to the school and say, here’s the story, here’s what he said, what’s, what’s true. And then you can actually have a dialogue that, that can resolve it. And my guess is that’s probably what happened.

But if you go into this with, I’m not listening to you, and you have nothing to say and it’s not your, you know, we’re the teachers here and we’re the people who know you’re not going to get anywhere. Same with the, with the, with the parents of the autistic child. You go, your child is trying, desperately trying to communicate there’s something wrong. I can’t breathe. You’re poisoning me with, with, with all kinds of toxic stuff and the breathing and everything in the air is foul. And you go to the doctor and the authority says, oh, no, it’s genetic, so they don’t listen to me, so I have to up the ante and the whole thing would change.

And it did change. And I remember when I changed my perspective and explained exactly what I just explained now to a set of parents with what I would think was the worst, quote, autistic child I’d ever seen, who was flying, flying around the office room and would never listen and would take my books down and throw everything, you know, and rip up the exam table, paper, table paper on the table, etc. And I explained this to, to the parents with, with him in the room. And to my amazement, even though I didn’t really think he could hear, I know he could hear, but I didn’t really think he would understand this.

He sort of folded his arms like this and sat down next to his mother and just looked at her and said, and didn’t say anything, but the look was, and so what are you going to do about this? And it was such a dramatic and immediate change in his behavior. And luckily for me and for him, the parents got it and they said something like, so you mean these four years that we’ve done everything we could think of, changed his diet and the GAPS diet and this medicine and glutathione and injections and secreting and, you know, everything they could think of and nothing really changed it.

And we’ve never seen him just sit like this and just look at us like, so what’s going to happen next? And from that day on, it changed everything because they, instead of saying that the problem was his, they saw that the problem was theirs and somehow they needed to listen to him. Now, again, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that his problem actually started probably with vaccines as well. So he still had some of that sort of detoxing to do, which given what he’s done, he should have actually did have have done that. And up until this time, he wouldn’t eat any diet.

Really, it was, every diet was a struggle from then on. Once they committed to, they were going to see that he wasn’t the problem, that he was trying to communicate a strategy, and that they were the ones who needed to change and actually adopt an attitude of listening. He then started eating basically everything they gave him and even started seeming interested in coming back to me and saying, and saying, walsh, could I eat this instead of this? So we ended up with a dialogue about food and basically went on to be, I would say, reasonably normal person.

And I was shocked and amazed to see and hear this, and it was really the key was this changing to be on his side. That’s why I started this book like this. Once you get that concept about what child rearing really is about, get on your child’s side, stay there, find out what’s behind their actions, their symptoms, their words, et cetera, as if you’re really interested, as you should be. You will not only help your child a lot, you will actually learn more than you ever thought possible. And that is what the children really want. They came here to help you learn about life.

They seem to know exactly the strategy to do that, the thing that pushes your buttons the most that will get you to learn, even in spite of yourself. If you just accept that, the world will open up to you. And that’s essentially what the rest of the book is written about as to how to put that into practice, how do you actually do that? So again, shameless plug. I hope and I would really. I’m encouraging everybody to help us out. Let’s get this. It’s very much against school for good nutrition, totally against vaccines. I think I say in there at one point, you cannot claim to be on your child’s side and still give them education, any vaccine, period.

That act shows that you are not on the child’s side and they will know that. So let’s hope try to get this to have a as wide a distribution as possible. I’m happy to do podcasts with mommies and parenting sites and whoever else is interested in children’s health. And that’s the goal. And again, January 18, noon to 1, if you could buy it at Amazon, that will hopefully jack up the rankings and get people to pay attention and we can get this show on the road. So thanks everybody for listening. I apologize once again for the technical issues.

I guess somehow we’re going to have to break down and get me a proper way of doing webinars and podcasts, but I’m the resistant one for that with anything technology. But seems like that’s coming to an end. Okay, thanks everybody for listening and I will see you next week.
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